When I’m around my contemporary friends or colleagues, the conversation often turns to elder care. We are that age when parents and grandparents need extra help with every day living. A friend recently recounted on Facebook how devastated she was when she learned her elderly mother was the victim of multiple scams. Another friend told about the struggle the family had trying to make decisions for her father-in-law when he was battling cancer and, for a time, could not verbalize his wishes. Once he was able to talk my friend jumped into the fray to help him until the end — but at the cost of her job and her plans to go to nursing school.
Friends tell harrowing tales of having to drop everything when they get a call that a loved one is in crisis. For those of us who live is cities distant from our parents, it means herculean efforts to scramble for child care or fill-ins at work so we can catch the first thing smoking to be at a loved one’s hospital bed or doctor’s appointment.
For those of you with loved ones still living independently — or with financial issues that need sort — you might want to consider a senior advisor to help with some of the logistics. A senior advisor can help you navigate through finding home help or the appropriate community that has the level of assistance your loved one might need. Senior advisors can answer questions on such topics of benefits or how to talk to a doctor about health issues. Single elderly people can tap a senior advisor to discuss important end of life decisions.
It can be draining when you are trying to deal with the emotions of watching an aging loved one in need while at the same time being expected to make the right care decisions. The Society of Certified Senior Advisors can help you find a qualified one. On the society’s web page there are free resources that can get you started, such as this guide to creating a help network for people who are aging by themselves with no children or partner to help them or this free download on understanding veteran’s benefits.
Senior advisors can direct you to resources in your community and can help jump start your knowledge of the world of elder care and care-giving. They can help provide some of the answers to your dozens of questions and can help relieve some of the stress and allow you to focus on the care.
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